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Do you have consumer or gardener mentality?

Here in America, most people have a consumer’s mentality. When a consumer buys a product and brings it home and realizes there is a problem with it, he or she takes it back. Often couples bring a consumer mentality into their marriages. Of course, the devil loves to point out your spouse’s flaws and problems because he is the accuser. To keep your spouse’s faults from overwhelming you and damaging your marriage, you must adopt a different mentality. The gardener’s mentality. A true gardener doesn’t accuse the seller or reject the plant. A gardener takes responsibility to do what is necessary to restore the plant to health. Asking “I wonder what I could be doing that would cause this problem?” Or, “I wonder what I can do that will fix it and restore it to health?” We can all thank God that Jesus has a gardener’s mentality toward us. If you are a consumer, you are most likely impatient and frustrated with your spouse’s problems. Talking no responsibility to nurture your spouse or redeem the situation. If you are a gardener, you see the problems in your spouse but view them much differently from a consumer. You are optimistic about them getting better and are proactive and positive. Your caring behavior gives your spouse encouragement and love. Prayer and obedience become God’s tools for redeeming your spouse. Are you a gardener or a consumer? ~Inspired by Jimmy Evans

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Debate and difference of opinion are okay as long as it is done with LOVE and respect. We will not all see eye to eye on everything but we will be respectful and considerate of one another. We will not put each other down because our issues are different we will lift each other up in word and in deed. When you post your comment it is not immediately viewable to you. Its emailed to me first then I publish it. So don't worry because you don't see it, it's there.

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